We've all heard this saying before, usually being mumbled by a husband who has put quite a few years into a marriage and has learned that in order to have peace in his life, he must constantly strive to keep his wife happy, at all costs! I've been married for 30 years and yes, I admit to not being the easiest person to live with, at times. I will also admit that my husband has gone above and beyond to make me feel happy, content, and loved over those 30 years. But I've learned some things that only time and experience can teach you, and one of those things is that we should never rely on a relationship to bring us complete and total happiness. To put that much pressure on another human being will only end in disappointment and destruction. Real happiness has to start within ourselves.
Let me share some advice on this Woman Wednesday:
- Love yourself - it all starts with these simple two words. If you don't love yourself, or even like yourself, no one else will. You are beautiful! You are made in the image of God, which is magnificent! Put aside all the negative things anyone has ever said about you and just simply trust that God made a one-of-a-kind masterpiece when he made you!
- Look inside - the most beautiful person can have the ugliest personality. Who are you when no one is looking? Quit doctoring up the outside and start working on the inside! It's okay that you don't have the perfect model figure, what's on the inside of you is what really matters. Make sure your personality and character outshine your exterior.
- Look up - the ONLY thing that will ever bring complete happiness in your life is your relationship with your Heavenly Father - God! When that relationship is right, all will be well within you and the world around you. Have you accepted his invitation for salvation? We are all sinners, in need of a Savior, and Jesus Christ is that Savior. He shed his own blood to save us from ourselves, so that we can live a life of freedom on this earth and spend eternity with him. If you have never asked him to be your Lord and Savior, I encourage you to do that today.....this very moment!
- Look outward - take the focus off of yourself! We are all born with a selfish nature and constantly want to focus on ourselves and our desires. But to find true happiness and contentment, you need to look outward.You have been placed on this earth for a reason. You're meant to reach out and share the love of Christ with others and to help them in some tangible way. What are you gifts and talents? Look for some tangible ways to help others. There are so many volunteer opportunities all around you, if you will just make yourself available to participate in them.
Do you really want to be the "Happy Wife" or "Happy Mom" or simply the "Happy Woman"? Stop relying on others to fulfill that need inside of you and start doing something for yourself. The first step is always the most painful, but the final reward is worth it!
Have a great day!